Should I Marry a Murderer [2026]

May 25, 2026

3-part Documentary (50 minutes per episode, around 2.5 hours altogether)

For a title this crazy and clickbaity, the story has to be quite something. And, having watched all three episodes, I can tell you confidently that it didn’t fucking disappoint. Should I Marry a Murderer is a gripping Netflix documentary about a woman who finds out that her fiancé is a murderer. The question that is posed in the title might seem a bit sensationalist and quite insane, but it’s actually a valid one. To understand just how we get from insane to valid, you’ll have to watch this binger, probably in one sitting. Or laying, I don’t know how you watch your shows. First, I want to acknowledge Tony Parsons, the victim, cancer survivor, and an all-around great guy. A great guy whose life was cut short one senseless night. Since we’re going in deep, I wanted to first mention him.

You can check out this BBC’s The Vanishing Cyclist to learn more about him and the investigation into his disappearance. The story is told through the vivacious and charismatic Caroline Muirhead, a Scottish woman who matches with the real fucking highlander. Would you swipe left on someone like that? Or, if the situation is reversed, on her. If you think that there aren’t any female murderers on Tinder, I’ve got news for you. There are so many little details and twists in this single tale of love, destruction, morality, and bad choices that you simply won’t be able to stop watching it. I am so tempted to share some of them, but I won’t do it. You deserve to go what the fuck on your own. What I will talk about is something else.

Should I Marry a Murder serves as an almost perfect character study that will help you peer deeper into this human condition we’re suffering from. And right away, I have to say that I don’t feel anything but love and understanding for Caroline. The situation she found herself in is a tricky one, and she explains quite honestly how she got there. However, at the same time, you can see how the human brain works. How the emotions and mental health struggles slowly, or sometimes instantly, push us into bad and risky situations. And once you develop this type of loop, a downward spiral or a vicious circle, whatever you prefer, it’s quite hard to get yourself free. At this point, I would like to veer off into something you could do. You could use this documentary Should I Marry a Murderer as a test for your future husband, wife, or even yourself.

Since Caroline is not that trad-wife, golden girl scout, but a real woman, just see what reaction her confessions elicit. When she decides to do something that seems so bizarre and counterproductive, do you flinch and condemn her on the spot? Do you acknowledge that what she’s doing is dangerous, but can see the underlying causes? There’s a lot of stuff that happens here that’s open for discussion. And while the character of Caroline is in focus, let’s not forget about the other party in the title, the fucking murderer. He’s actually quite stereotypical with one slight difference alluded to earlier. We can talk all day and night about these certainly flawed people, but one thing is not open for discussion. And that’s the incredibly smug, unprofessional, and perplexing attitude of the police towards Caroline.

I am specifically talking about David Green, the head of the entire police force in Scotland at the time. He reminds me of policing problems that arose in and around another case in that neck of the woods. Believe Me is a miniseries about Britain’s worst rapist and the police response, which was abysmal. And one more thing, at the end of this documentary, we can see how systemic issues create problems for many years to come. We basically never evolved past our tribal upbringing, just upgrading superficial stuff and moving on. The real change sometimes comes, usually after a big and tragic event. All the characters in this story should’ve received help first as children and then, later, as adults. However, receiving help when you’re a child prevents stuff from getting more complicated and worse down the line.

You can see that in the interview with the former policeman who was in charge of this small region of Scotland. The entire state is basically reduced to one man with almost no resources, and the might of the entire tribal society and bad traditions and roles up against him. And even this type of policing is no longer present, where the cop knows people in his area. Finally, I want to end this review/recommendation by telling you just how beautiful and formidable Scottish landscapes are. You know, you think that this shit exists only in movies, and then you see it here. And it takes your breath away. Everything you see, feel, and look at feels and looks ancient, almost foreboding. I know you have to be a special type of person to live in this kind of environment, but I can admire its beauty from afar.